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The Family Bed: Helping a toddler recover

on April 18, 2014


Sleeping arrangements in the house are always something that differ greatly from family to family. Everyone does it differently.

Do you snuggle your child to sleep in your arms?
Do you shush them gently, patting their back and then edge away?
Do you sit by their door, shushing and reassuring them that you are there?
Do you do a cry it out method (CIO) and maybe do some form of rapid return until your little one is settled?
Do you put them in a hut at the bottom of your garden and hope they eventually quieten down…

Ok – so the last one isn’t a good option, but I know people that do versions of each of the above (excluding the hut one!!) and they all talk about their individual pros and cons.

We’ve gone mainly down the co-sleeping route in our household. It suited us best as our little man has been breastfed and snuggling next to Mummy, curled in the natural C-shape that a co-sleeping Mum seems to do, has been wonderful.

Gradually, over time, we’ve managed to get him to move more into his own room and were really starting to break ground with him. He was enjoying his own bed. Relishing in the independence that he was developing but safe in the knowledge that he could snuggle up with us if he needed or wanted to and wouldn’t be told ‘No’.

And then he went and broke his leg ten days ago.

Everything went backwards and our little increasingly-independent lad has now become quite needy and desperate for cuddles and companionship.

I don’t blame him. He’s sore, he’s having some horrible dreams and he just wants his Mummy and Daddy.

So, for the past week I’ve been sleeping with him in the double bed in his room. Whilst that’s been great for giving us all space, it’s not been exactly ideal as I’ve missed hubby and our bed, so I started looking at various options.

Would a single bed fit alongside ours? Nope
How about a small single? Yes – but the cost of good mattresses and finding one that was a similar height to our bed was proving to be quite difficult.

Then I had a brainwave. One that, quite frankly, should have occurred to me ages ago as we’ve all been snuggled up in a double (which has been rather snug…)

I’ve adapted his existing cotbed and managed to lash it with bungee cords to our bed. It’s THE perfect height and the mattress fits safely and snugly against ours thanks to some rolled up towels shoved down the side (going to be replaced with a wedge of nursery-grade foam soon).

He loves it and it means that if he does need to come through to us in the night, we’ve all got space. He’s still got the double in his room, which also means that if people come to stay then we have somewhere for them to sleep that isn’t taken over by a star-fish toddler. Fantastic!

What does your family bed look like? I’d love to see how creative some of you have got!



3 responses to “The Family Bed: Helping a toddler recover

  1. ERF Mama says:

    I have both of my small ones in the master bedroom with that exact set-up. šŸ™‚
    They have cot beds though, but it’s a really good way of co sleeping! ā¤

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